LOVE.. wat do u think it is? It can be something very sweet, memorable, joyful, bitter, or painful. I might not be a good counselor or advisor but i do experienced some whether it is directly or indirectly. Yes, indirectly means im not involved. It's just simply something tat i've seen from my surrounding.
When u started to fall in love or in a relationship, things will b getting sweeter n sweeter each day. You and your partner may be very happy and wanted to share it out. Celebrating bdays, valentine's day, and anniversary happily with surprise and gifts each time. However, as time goes along..getting longer.. love might somehow fade away. When problems seem to get in the way, mend it up! Try something refreshing, extraordinary, special, memorable for both of u... if u quarrel over something, try to fix it. If third party is involved, talk it out.. discuss.. dont ignore it!! If u ignore, things will be getting complicated and harder to solve. (Yeah, i knw its not easy to do...but try ur best! Good Luck!)
When the only solution is breaking up or let's be frens, dont collapse, dont cry, dont think negatively! Instead, be STRONGER, owes think positively and move on! Life does not end at that spot. Never ever think of suicide.. never ever think of injuirying urself.. Never ever think of hurting/harming ur own life (eg: health..financial..).. never ever think of running away.. never ever think of one nite stand.. never ever think of looking for a substitute.. By doin so, u will only hurt urself..hurt ur family..hurt ur friends and hurt those who cares for u. Remember, you are not alone.. owes talk it out wit ur frens, ur parents/family or even u can look for counselors. Although u might b painful now but treat it as a lesson.. learn n get over it. Do not repeat the same mistake in the future. There are a lots of better guys/gals out there..(yeah, u hv to filter..dont simply choose ur partner). Do make more frens, b more social, b more careful and learn to b independent! You will learn lots of things from the ppl around u.
Finish with the general LOVE things, now let me share some of the pre-LOVE, LOVE n post-LOVE problems:
Pre-love:
Hey, ppl out there.. if u really like tat gal/guy, just tell her la! Gv her/him gifts, talk wit him/her, hang out together!!! Dont keep ur mouth shut tight... it doesnt help u at all.
LOVE:
If u two cant get along, find out wat's the problem.. like trusting each other?? Hey.. if u really in love wit each other, u ought to trust him or her.. but pls ppl dont take this chance to cheat him or her. If i found out tat u did tat to some of my buddies, u'll b a dead meat!! i do experienced this myself, so i knw how it feels.. how hurt it is..how hard it is to get over it. If u cheat, ppl tat got cheated by u will not trust other ppl easily in the future. Do think of that.. dont b so selfish!! So, never ever "Step on two boats" at a time!! Esp married ppl!!! Do you think ur wife/husband will be very happy or can get it tru easily?? They will b very very HURT!! since they hv commited their lives to u, u ought to do the same thing! DONT CHEAT!! Do u think Divorce = Breaking up?? NO!! Think carefully b4 u do something! Apply this theory in everything u do.. not only in the "relationship" but ALL things.
Post-Love:
hmm...breaking up is not a big deal. You may hv put in all ur effort to mend it but when it is not mendable anymore, u cant do anything too..just let it go. You may have a very long term relationship but if the guy/gal did not appreciate u, just forget about him or her. Dont put any hope in him/her, wanting him/her to b wit you again.. Its their loss for not mending it up wit u. It is not worthy for u to waste ur time n effort just to mend it up wit him or her when he/she did not try to mend it up.
Sometimes after a couple break up, they will still contact wit each other.. yeah, its not tat u cant contact with each other anymore but the way n things tat u share...pls pls pls..think b4 u said it out. Think of the other party's feeling... whether o not they hv actually let it go/forget abt it or still hoping for some lil hope to b wit u... U may hurt him/her indirectly by sharing ur current lifes (like meeting up wit some gal/guy, how u two get along, how u wan to tackle a gal or how u wan to flirt wit some guys..) and dont ask "do u still hoping to b wit me again? do u still love me? do u still hv the feeling?" when u actually not wanting to b wit him/her again. This is definitely a NO NO step.. dont ever try to pop this topic up when u r simply searching for a topic to communicate with him/her (yeah, ur EX..). In my opinion, those ppl who asked this ques/talk abt things like tat are either trying to flirt wit the EX or trying to step on two boats (if he/she is in a relationship), or simply wanna end the feelings/hope tat the gal/guy (yeah, the ex again..) put in him/her. So pls stop it... Sometimes, i do feel angry wit some ppl who do so... do u knw how hurt is ur ex ah?? If u really wanna end the HOPE tat ur ex is hoping.. stop doin tat! Do u knw how hard it is for ur ex to stop tumbling in tat painful world?? Do u knw how hard it is for her/him to forget abt the past u both shared?? Oh pls!!
Watever it is.... if someone out there need some advice, dont hesitate to look for ur frens/parents/counselors. This post is something tat i wan to share.. if i hv offended u, im sorry! anyway, i do hope some ppl do learn something...
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